Are you giving to your relationships? Part II

Let's continue with our discussion...

The Universal Law of Giving.

Is the law working for you or against you?

It works like this. What you give is what you get. Other people's actions and words are a reflection of your actions and words. It's like as if you are facing yourself in front of a mirror. If you smile at people, most people will smile back.

This is the universal law that is working.

However, like most network marketers have the law working against them by telling, presenting or persuading people to do things they want to do.

This resulted in most people will tell them back in 3 ways:-

1) Rejection
2) Objections
3) When people say they are interested to involve in your business but they don't. This is also called "Buyers Remorse".

In the world of relationship business like ours, if you want the universal law of giving to work for you, and have people listen to you and your solutions, then listen with the intent to understand them first.

I hope I have given some valuable insights on how to improve your relationship building business. Until next time, I will look at how you can this and build your organization and consumers base with ease based on solid relationship principles and methodology that works..... all the time!

Take care and talk to you soon.

To Our Success!


Eddy Kong
Certified Behavioral Consultant
Mentoring For Free Program

Are you giving to your relationships?

Welcome back...

Before I continue, would you agree that the solution should be based on discovering what is really behind the rejection and the fear that associated with it, and how to identify it.

There are 2 things that you need to understand:

1) People always do things for themselves not ours. They are often motivated by their very own interests, money, and etc. I guess you may have heard "What's In It For Me?" illness; and

2) Most people does not like being told or persuaded to do their things, but to my surprise, they do like to learn what to do and how to do it.

And do you know that when network marketers hear someone express their problems or needs, such as a need for money or good health.... they quickly started rambling in with their solutions without discovering much, if anything, about understanding the person's situation or needs and the history behind it?

They just rattled and rattled thinking ahead that "one size fits all" type of sharing.... that basically "tells" them what to do.

We have to really asked ourselves when building relationships in our business... does one size fits all? Or are we all unique in how we see things? I found that if we choose to act on the one size fits all perspectives, then rejection and objections is what we are attracting.

The truth is, it doesn’t matter much what you think about your solutions and whether you are going to work with them.

It’s what the other person thinks. So if you start your relationships by overpowering people and coming up with your solutions too early, most people will withdraw.

As a result you have to learn the conventional selling techniques of objection handling, closing and mental strategies to overcome the rejection you created in the first place! It becomes a 'numbers game' that requires a great deal of effort and time to make it work for you.

People virtually like to do things for their reasons and not ours!

Try to observe your own experiences in your business

Have you ever been in a situation where you asked someone for a solution to a problem and they started with the words, “You know what you should do…?” Did you feel resentful or annoyed, even though you asked for help? If you did, it’s probably because you didn’t feel involved and your own uniqueness and knowledge was not being acknowledged. It's the same for most people.

That's all for today's sharing.

Tomorrow, I will be sharing the law of giving in a business relationship and how it will impact the way you do business.

Till then, take care and have a good day ahead!

To Our Success!


Eddy Kong
Certified Behavioral Consultant
Mentoring For Free Program

I was busy building relationships...

So sorry to have neglect my beloved audience...

The reason why I did not been updating lately is because I am very busy building relationships as mentioned in the E-book, "Success in Ten Steps".

Through the Mentoring For Free Program, I managed to generate some quality leads.

But before I share how I go about doing it.. I would like to share my thoughts on why building strong foundation in relationships for the sales profession is very important.

Why conventional sales techniques and systems taught to Distributors :

*** Are not effective for most of them.
*** It actually cause more objections and rejections that they would prefer not to have.

How can we reverse this and change the results in our business by adopting a different approach. I called it natural communication or subtle communication which I have been using it every now and then in my business.

Here goes....

Do you make this mistake when talking with potential customers and partners? Or

The way we communicate and build relationship will determine the way people respond to us...

Did you ever asked yourself what is the greatest fear that holds back most people to go into our kind of business? It the fear of rejection and all the painful feelings that come with that.

There are many types of rejection, but I have identified there are mainly 2 rejections.

1) They said "I am not interested" type of rejection.
2) The type where someone who has looked at your business and stare blindly at you and in their mind said to themselves that "Oh, this business doesn't really fit where I am looking for?"

What actually causes rejection in our kind of business?

Did you ever have the following feelings?

1) Have anxious feelings about to people about your business idea, or even your solutions,
2) Do you need to get motivated or "pump-up" before your meet prospective clients,
3) Or do you drag yourself to make those calls to your either your warm or cold prospective partners and your anxiousness actually prevents you from making those phone-calls.

From my experience and observation, it is definitely the way we communicate, building the relationships, or thinking of what to say before speaking to the actual person, that is causing the rejections we faced.

Do you know what is pulling you from moving forward? Let's discuss in more details...

Let's keep the cat in the bag till tomorrow what is a possible solutions on what causes rejection in our relationship building business...

Stay tuned for more updates tomorrow!

Regards,
Eddy Kong
Certified Behavioral Consultant
Mentoring For Free Program

We Are Not Alone On This Planet Earth.

Besides, being part of Mentoring For Free system which talks about giving free mentoring and teaching sessions to people who wants to be successful in Network Marketing.

I also believe that relationship is the key to long-lasting success in our kind of business.

That's why I have been searched high and low on how to improve my results in this business, then I bumped into a relationship guru where he uses the Internet to build relationship by using the "3-foot rule" in front of your computer.

His name is Max Steingart.

Some of you may have heard of him, he is responsible for the prospecting mastery program currently conducting via the Internet. He encourages people to subscribe to his daily motivation series and I took the liberty to post some of his previous daily articles on my blog.

On this article, he mentioned we are not alone on this planet Earth, and we do not exist for ourselves.

YOU DO NOT EXIST FOR YOURSELF - Max Steingart

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You're not an isolated island. You're a piece of the planet, a piece of the universe.

Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows.

Your success depends on the support of other people. The only hurdle between you and what you want to be, is the support of others.

When you put yourself in another's place, you'll know why they think and do certain things. You can succeed fastest by helping others to succeed.

Always think in terms of what the other person wants. You'll get everything in life that you want if you'll help enough other people get what they want.

Doing things for others always pays dividends. When you help someone's boat across a river, you'll find your own boat has reached the shore too.

My homework for you today.

Here goes:-1) Think of other people first and put aside your agenda.

2) There is a saying..."You can have what you want, if you can help more people to get what they want in their life." Be a humble "servant" to other people and you establish firm and stable relationships with other people. Ready to serve someone around you?

3) Ask yourself this question, "Who and how can I help someone today by establish more personal relationships?"

Enjoy it... Soon, you will realize that you are filled with numerous opportunities to establish strong firm relationships with someone whether you know them or not.

To Our Success!

Eddy Kong
Certified Behavioral Consultant
Mentoring For Free Program

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Relationships? Relationships? Relationships? What is it?

According to dictionary.com, the word "relationships" is defined as -
A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other: has a close relationship with his siblings.

To me an effective relationships is to understand what the other person really needs and wants by listening with the heart and not with it's one's ears.

We have to constantly ask ourselves, are we looking upon prospect or potential business partners as units of production or friends for life that we mentored and coached for life. As we are all aware Network Marketing is about teaching and mentoring as featured in my Success In Ten Steps free E-book.

As for me, when I started working in this business, I regards potential business partners as just partners in my business and sometimes we do not concerned about their lives. Until lately, I started reading Michael's Success In Ten Steps, I then realize that in order to be successful in Network Marketing, establishing a solid foundation in relationship is very important.

Companies rise and fall, products come and go, but partners' relationships build on trust, love, concern, care and support will last for a lifetime. Do you see lots of relationships within families disintegrating in this modern society? Yes, we do, but not much as compare to the companies or even the products...

In fact, I have learned an effective way to build relationships is from another Michael of www.naturalselling.com. He stress that we have to see with our heart and listen with our soul, he has a formula of inviting your potential business partners.

Recently, I was prospected by a fellow networker from another company. But she was not happy with her mentor and was confused on how to develop her network marketing business. So, I told her I am willing to mentor her FR*EE of Charge... She was surprised and was quite skeptical at first, but later she told all her problems in her life and also in business.

When I noticed that the time is right, I quickly invited her to attend our company opportunity meetings and she agreed that she felt that I am a better mentor than her upline. In fact, I am only using my heart and soul to listen to her and tell her that I can help you achieve her dreams with us.

Let's see how it goes and shall update my blog in due course of how this potential business partner process of joining me in the business.

To Our Success!

Eddy Kong
Certified Behavioral Consultant
Mentoring For Free Program

Relationships? Is It Important In Business or Just In Network Marketing.

I hope you enjoyed reading my very 1st blog yesterday.

As a matter of fact, I enjoyed doing that...as I am trying to figure it how to upload my photo to blogger.com, at last I got it after much trial and error. I am at least proud that I have the determination and perserverance to do it.

Even though, I managed to upload it late last night, I was happy as I have accomplished something significant, I believe this is the beginning of something great that I shall share in the very near future on my blog.

I have to thank some people even though I have not met. The first one is Ms Debbie Haxton where she emailed to me an email about MentoringForFree system. Another is my distance mentor Mr Michael Dlouhy and his team for putting together all the training and the system for people who are serious to achieve success in network marketing. Thanks a lot for putting an effort on help those who are left alone in running their network marketing business.

Here, I am putting what I have learned from the Free E-book into practice. It's WORKS and I am beginning to build a solid relationship with my friends' (as I do not regard them as prospects), they are not units of production but warm-blooded human beings that have emotions and feelings. They valued relationships as the most important citeria in business development.

Maybe a little introduction of myself....

I was formerly a assistant fund manager helps to manage $5 million funds across the Asia-Pacific region for some 8 years. Unfortunately, I was retrenched and was left without a job. But luckily, I am already building my network marketing business (should I say Relationship Marketing business) part-time. Well, thankfully at least I am opened unlike many of my friends that are not opened at that time, till today. Well, it's takes quite a while for fellow Singaporeans to accept that Network Marketing is a trend to come...

Ever since, I started doing this business some two and half years ago and doing it full-time. I was intrigued by the fact that this business will bring financial independence as being promised by mentors, industry gurus, books and many other resources.

Relationships is the Key to Long-term success in Network Marketing!

After reading Success in Ten Steps, I am totally overwhelmed by the fact that relationships is the key to build long-term business success! Network Marketing is not about the products, the plan, the company but the people, synergy, support and the warmth environment. It is WHO you know is more important than what you know.

I strongly encouraged any aspiring network marketers to download this FREE E-book from Mentoring For Free website to save yourself months and possibly years in managing and developing this business in a correct and effective manner.

Let's see each other at the Top!

To Our Success!

Eddy Kong
Certified Behavioral Consultant
Mentoring For Free Program

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